To Rebecca Rayl

26 September 1865


[MS in possession of Dr. Richard Rayle of Miami University, Oxford, Ohio]


Oberlin 26th Sept. 1865.


My Dear Darling,

I was on my way with a

letter to you, directed as heretofore

to Bronson, to send it by mail

& met Mrs Henderson who informed

me that it should be directed to

Norwalk. Why was I not told

this before? Perhaps you have not

yet recd those I wrote last week.

I am so sorry that I did not know

where to direct to have my letters reach

you most directly. Mrs Henderson

says to day that now she thinks [ ]

it was altogether fit, & best that our

marriage was defered on account

of Julia's sickness. Had we rushed

forwardard it would have look

like indecent haste & more like a

runaway match than like

Christian moderation. My short


life is not worth being wedded to by a

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real living woman such as you

are. I dare not advise you to do it, Darling.

P.M. My Precious one, I have

just rec your note of this morning.

Thankful that you are thus far

sustained. Fanny Hn came &

told me what you wrote to her

of Julias state. I am glad that

Miss Ladd remains with you.

Thank Br. Patten for his note.

I watch the mails anxiously

of course. Dont get sick my

Dear Darling, if you can

help it. Of course, you will

feel well while so excited

up to the very point of breaking

down. But use discretion, &

again let me intreat you not to

trust too much to your good health

& constitution. Remember such

trees do not bend but break

square down when the strain

goes beyond a certain point.

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My hope of Julia is that her

slender constitution will

bend but not break. I must

finish. D.V. in the morning

God bless you & Julia Darlings.

Wed. morning 27th. My tried, precious one,

how are you this morning. Have you

had any sleep. Is dear julia yet

alive? How is she? I hope to have these

questions answered at 2.oClock. If Julia

is still with [us] kiss the Dear child for me,

give my tenderest love to her & assure her

that I remember her all the time.

Charles is not likely to return from N.Y.

for some weeks & of course we can keep

Ange & baby. I think they will go to

N.Y. to live rather than to Oshkosh.

But nothing is with them settled yet.

But few die here with the fever. They

are generally not very sick. In a few

cases they run down very low, are about

or quite given up by physicians & then

slowly recover. My impression is that it

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will be so with Julia. But Julias

bilious habit renders her a bad

subject to grapple with fever.

I hope that this trial may be much

blessed to you & to all the circle of

friends. I fear you don't get much

time to pray, but you are learning

to trust. Give my love to Dear Sarah, &

to Br. P. We are all in usual health at

our house. Br. Monroe has returned.

It is uncertain whether he remains.

It seems long since we met. But we

will "let patience have its perfect work."

My Dear, You once told me that Sarah said

you are reckless. If you marry me will

not this be regarded by her as an instance

of extreme recklessness? I do not regard you

as so committed that you are not at perfect


liberty to remain unmarried, or marry whom

you please. Please tell Sarah that I have

not advised you to undertake housekeeping.

nor to marry & nurse an old man. I shall

neither wonder nor think hard of you if upon

reflection you conclude that our marriage is

inexpedient. I shall, in such, case fully justify

your conclusion. God Bless you for ever & ever.

C. G. Finney.



This letter, also dated 26 September 1865, is in the possession of Mr Ivor Anderson of Ludington, Michigan.

A word has been crossed out here.